Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Let's Talk About Sex ,Baby


SEX





Before we dive into sex tips, advice, etc-lets just start with the basics. But before we get to the basics, if sexual topics make you feel uncomfortable, I highly recommend not reading this article. If you find yourself continuing to read and feeling uncomfortable, we warned you-so that's on you, honey. 
like-What is lesbian sex?

To many this is a no brainer, but to many others, this is a very serious question that a lot of people either ask-or are too afraid to ask. 

I can't tell you how many times I have had my friends (straight friends obvs) shrink in their seats, lower their voice, and look at me like a cute little deer in the head lights...and then they utter the sentence...

"So what is lesbian sex? Like how do you do it?"

My immediate reaction is always to laugh. And I pretty much do every time.

I laugh because it is quite simple. 

Lesbian sex is: Two human beings enjoying sexual intercourse with one another.

It really is that simple. But for those of you that still have your head slightly cocked, I will elaborate. 


Some people think lesbian sex is what you might see in porn, well much like straight sex-that stuff is not real. It is paid (most of the time) actors that probably don't even know each other, having sex on camera in front of strangers. Lesbian sex is not like that. It is just like straight sex, except you can't get pregnant. 

That's right- you can do every single position a straight couple could do-except the part that makes you orgasm the most (your clitoris) is getting the most attention. Yes, that means multiple orgasms in a row. 

Let's go over some more basic questions that every lesbian gets asked.

Is lesbian sex just going down on each other and fingering? 

UGH. no. I actually know a lesbian that thinks that is what sex is. I feel very sorry for her. While going down on one another are extremely intimate and vulnerable things, they aren't as intimate as being able to look into your partners eyes as you both get to the big "O" together. Some of you still may be confused...because...well how is it sex if there isn't any penetration?

Well first off, some women do use dildos, not every couple does though. Sex is far beyond an object going into your vagina. I'm sure most of us can agree that something going into you does not make it sex. Sex is supposed to be intimate, and most of the time shared with someone you really care about. The two of you share a special moment that binds you together. And sometimes sex is just a way to get off, blow off some steam, or you are just a happy single person that needs to get some every once in a while- nothing wrong with that either! 

The point is-sex is not an object going into your vagina. That is ridiculous. Especially for people that don't get off from penetration. And there are plenty of women out there that don't. 

Lesbians can have just plain and simple missionary sex just like any straight couple. There doesn't need to be anything between them. 

Still have some of you confused? I am sure I do, because some of my friends were still confused at this point. So here it is-plain and simple:

Two women. On top of each other. Vaginas on top of each other. Two clitoris's (you know-that extremely sensitive part of you that gives you orgasms)on top of each other, touching. What do you get from that? Sex and a lot of happy orgasms. 

So there. Hopefully you get the picture now, because I am not sure how I could be any more blunt than that. 

The important thing is, sex is different for EVERY couple. Whether you are straight, gay, lesbian, bi, trans, etc. Every couple enjoys sex differently.

There are some couples that are into role play, sex toys, etc...and then there are some couples that like it plain and simple. There is no right or wrong way to have sex, as long as you and your partner are both enjoying it, then it is right. 

So now when you wonder what lesbian sex is, hopefully this helped clear it up. It is just two humans having sexual intercourse...no crazy magic tricks there. 

And for those of you that are lesbians and are virgins, don't worry. You don't need to know what you are doing before you have it, it will come naturally, because it is natural. I had no clue what I was doing, but it was the most natural and beautiful thing I had ever experienced. So don't let the scary porn on the internet freak you out, or what other people tell you you are supposed to do. How you have sex is between you and your partner and there is no right or wrong way to have lesbian sex. 

You do not have to use toys to have sex, and using them does not make you "less" of a lesbian. 

That argument is ridiculous. The amount of times I have heard someone try to argue that lesbians really aren't lesbians because they use dildos (not all do) is absurd. First of all, I actually know more straight women that use dildos than I do lesbian women. That's right. I know women that have an actual penis that they could have sex with, and they enjoy the fake one more. I also know plenty of women that use a dildo with sex with their man. So what does that make them? It is just a toy. It doesn't make anyone less or more gay. I have also had people argue that if you do not use dildos during lesbian sex, it isn't sex. I'm sorry, but that has to be the most insane accusation.
A lesbian couple that doesn't want to use a penis shaped object while they have sex is is not really a lesbian? I don't think I need to say anything further. If you have any level of intelligence you can hear how absurd that sounds. 


I think that just about covers what lesbian sex is. It is just sex. 

Now that we got that out of the way...you can look forward to sex tips and advice in the near future. And to our male audience... you might want to pay attention from us. Taking advice from women on sex on how to please women...probably won't hurt your sex life. Just saying :) 

If you have any fun sex tips or advice, or funny sex stories, feel free to email us and you just might see some of your advice in the column! 

Until next time,
Stay Sexy! 

xoxx,

Lesbopolitan 

7 comments:

  1. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  2. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  3. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  4. "How do you have sex" is almost as annoying a question as "Which one's the man".As much as this comes from a place of ignorance sometimes,it still bugs me,so thanks for this post.I agree totally about lesbians feeling you're not really gay if you don't use a dildo. This is as ridiculous as it is unimaginative. You've stressed the intimacy &closeness which is so important

    ReplyDelete
  5. Had a few problems with my post as you can guess!! I meant to say that I agree with you regarding the dildo situation. I feel sorry for people who feel it's the only way- boy they must have shitty sex lives; no imagination seriously

    ReplyDelete
  6. Had a few problems with my post as you can guess!! I meant to say that I agree with you regarding the dildo situation. I feel sorry for people who feel it's the only way- boy they must have shitty sex lives; no imagination seriously

    ReplyDelete
  7. I am loving your every article. ��

    ReplyDelete